It's Time for You to Leave

 

There are 

serious consequences 

on planet Earth for 

people not liking you. 

Huge ones. 

We like to talk a big game 

now about the fact that 

"....it's it's only the way 

that they're think!" -- you guys! 

People do terrifying things 

when they don't Like You, and 

don't want you somewhere --

You know that at some visceral level. 

We all know that at some visceral level

that there are huge consequences. 

Rather than gaslight ourselves all day long

about the fact that it's not so bad 

to be rejected. No, actually sometimes 

it's absolutely dangerous. 

We can actually think about, well, 

is it worth the consequence? 

Now, you know how people say, 

"I went out and I got rejected so 

many times to see that it wasn't 

so bad --" 

They didn't 

put themselves 

in circumstances where 

the consequence could 

be so bad.

So, all they really did was to say, 

I put myself in a situation where I

already decided that the consequence

wasn't so bad. In fact, it wasn't worth

me holding myself back or whatever."

Why am I saying this? 

I don't want you to

gaslight yourselves. 

It's a big deal to

be rejected. It is. 

Rejection only

happens when people 

think poorly of you.

People thinking 

poorly of you is not safe

The Avoidant is in control of 

the relationship and some of you 

who are on this end of The Spectrum, 

you know how horrible this feels --

The relationship is always

controlled by the person who 

can pull away because a relationship, 

it's like I want you to

imagine there's a kiddie pool 

in between us of water --

To have a relationship, 

I have to, with my free will, 

step into that kiddie pool and 

you have to step into --

I'm totally at the mercy of that;

so if what I need is your closeness --

that's what a relationship is right? 

Then I'm at the mercy 

of your capacity to go 

and The Avoidant is the one 

that can do it -- so we basically 

sit here at The Castle Door, 

that's mostly closed, waiting 

for you to open --

Unworthy of Assimilation

Angry and Frustrated, Spike has a schoolteacher by The Collar

I’m a veal kind of guy — You’re too old to eat.

He snaps his neck instead.

But not to kill.

I feel much better.

MARY SHELLEY :

What is your name, sir?

Our Lady : 

Mary, this is not a good time to talk.

MARY SHELLEY : 

Or names. Are you several men? 

A composite of parts.

CYBERMAN: 

I am BETTER than Men.

MARY SHELLEY :

Yet I still see a soul in there.

CYBERMAN: (laughs) 

What do you think you see, child?

MARY SHELLY : 

I see the man who spared my son. 

Were you a father, before?

CYBERMAN: 

I was.

MARY SHELLEY :

You didn't want to be this way. 

They hurt you, this modern Prometheus. 

You loved once. 

And were loved in return. 

You do not wish to kill.

(She holds out her hand, and it touches it.)

CYBERMAN: 

My name was Ashad. 

I DID spare your son... 

(then grabs her arm) 

Because he's a useless runt, sickly and weak. 

And I DID have children. 

I slit their throats when they joined The Resistance.

(It switches to holding the back of her neck.)

CYBERMAN: 

In Death we are transformed, improved, updated, as you will learn.

SEVEN: 

You are a peculiar creature, Neelix.

NEELIX: 

Thanks. I think.... 

Ah! Here it is. 

Oh, this will be perfect for containing a small amount of protomatter.

 

Last time I used this Little Wonder I nearly lost it to the Kazon.

SEVEN: 

The Kazon -- Species-329.

NEELIX: 

You're familiar with them.

SEVEN: 

The Borg encountered a Kazon colony in the Gand Sector, grid 6929.

NEELIX: 

Were they assimilated?

SEVEN: 

Their Biological and Technological Distinctiveness was unremarkable. 

They were Unworthy of Assimilation.

NEELIX: 

I didn't realise the Borg were so discriminating.

SEVEN: 

Why assimilate a species that would detract from Perfection?

NEELIX: 

Good Point.