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Sunday, 13 May 2018

Just One Truth For Me by Danny Blanchflower

Just One Truth For Me
June 10, 1968

Danny Blanchflower attained international fame as a peerless soccer player in Great Britain, where the world's most universal game is revered. But when he was hired as a television commentator to explain the sport to Americans he did not perform as his employers wanted. Here he tells why he was considered a failure, suggests why professional soccer is in trouble in this country and passes on a deeper message that all sport should heed

Danny Blanchflower


It never really worked. I probably should have known that from the beginning, had I given it more thought, but I doubt if that would have changed my feelings. I'm not the sort to go into anything with a pessimistic attitude. Even now I want to believe that enough people in America want an honest outlook in their sporting affairs, enough, that is, to get it. At least I hope they will give my opinions fair consideration.
Maybe I should have been more concerned that night in February 1967 when I met Jack Dolph, the director of sports for CBS TV, in the foyer of London's Savoy Hotel. His words do seem more significant now. I remember his brief apology for having little time to spare before he rushed me through a mixed bag of questions concerning American soccer and my possible role as a television commentator, and how something in my answers perturbed him. "You're a spellbinder with words, I'll admit," he finally said. "But, to be honest, you frighten me."
His fears were spellbound, apparently, because a month later a press conference was held by CBS in New York to announce my appointment as "color" man for the network's latest venture into sport, the televising of National Professional Soccer League games.
None of the press corps seemed upset by my answers on that occasion, but they did have some doubt about my fate with CBS. "You'll ruin him," one lady reporter said to Bill MacPhail, the CBS vice-president for sports, over a drink at Toots Shor's after the conference. "Look," MacPhail said to me across the table, "if we say a word to you, you have my permission to phone her."
I wondered if he had forgotten that when I was summoned to his corner office on the 26th floor of the CBS Building just a few weeks later. A couple of his aides were sitting around, and there was a slight air of embarrassment.
"We didn't like part of your commentary on Sunday," one of them said.
"What was that?" I asked.
"You criticized the St. Louis goalkeeper. Couldn't you have been more positive?"
"No," I replied. "He made a mistake."
"That's not what we mean.... You could have said it was a good shot."

"It wasn't a bad shot," I admitted, "but the quality of the shot is relative to the goalkeeper's reaction. It happens quickly, and one's best judgment is instinctive. This shot was from nearly 35 yards out. Only a rare one from that distance should beat the goalkeeper, and then one would say, 'Great shot. The keeper had no chance.' Here the goalkeeper was a yard or more off his goal line into the field of play, a bad position that allowed the ball to glide over his upstretched hand and dip into the empty goal behind. Had he been on his goal line that would not have happened."
"We think you could have said it was a good shot," they insisted.
"It would not be the truth," I said.
"We don't want you to tell lies," they argued. "We think there are two truths: a positive truth and a negative truth. We want you to be positive—to say it was a good play rather than bad."
I had never met men before who worshiped two truths. Why had such inventive souls stopped at only two, I wondered? Why not four truths? Or 10? The philosophical winds of it swept through my mind. If they had two truths they must have two gods. Honor thy father and thy mother and thy two gods.... Positive and Negative. If their life was a conflict between two gods, had Satan, that fallen angel, been banished from  CBS as well as heaven? Or did it imply that  CBSwas heaven? (It was easy money, and it sure felt like heaven there at times on the 26th floor.) But if there was no bad, how could there be good? What would their reactions have been if I had said of the goalkeeper at  St. Louis: "Well, folks...that sure was good negative play on his part, making it easy for them to score that great goal."
Dolph's words, "You frighten me," and the lament of the press lady, "You'll ruin him," made sense now. There was a conflict in the land, and I was in the middle of it.
Someone told me later that the team owners did not like my comments and that  CBS thought I was knocking the product. I wondered how they ignored the large amount of complimentary mail I received and their own evidence in an audience response survey at the start of the soccer telecasts. "Several themes recur again and again in this flood of correspondence," the survey stated. "Perhaps the most constant of these is unstinted praise for the lucid commentary, gentle humor and perceptive insight of the 'color' man." Or had they considered the comments of The New York Timestelevision critic, Jack Gould, who had reviewed the first soccer telecast and said the game was "chiefly noteworthy for the distinctive commentary of  Danny Blanchflower, a  London sports journalist whose blend of running criticism, boundless compassion and sterling clich� eased the visual ennui."
"I know only one truth," I eventually said to  MacPhail, "to which a man takes either a positive or negative attitude." And I suggested that we tear up our contract, that there need be no compensation, no name-calling and no malice.
"Oh, there's no need for that," they said, showing no conviction in their own argument.
Nor was I the only trouble  CBS was having with its soccer game. There was difficulty with commercials. Soccer's two 45-minute periods of continuous play, with a 10-minute interval at halftime, was contrary to American television's pattern of fitting in commercials at regular intervals.  CBS officials worried about this, but gave the impression that it was the possible reaction to their solution that concerned them rather than the problem itself. They decided to use goal kicks and delays for injury as starting points for the commercials.

This would have been fine had they let play continue and picked it up again in motion after the minute's break. They could have recorded the missing piece and, had it been of any significance, have come straight back to where they left off, because if a goal had been scored or a riot caused it usually takes about a minute after this for play to restart.
But they wanted their viewers to see it all, to pay the piper and call the tune, which in this case was contrary to their own interests as well as to the spirit of the game. So the  CBS people convinced themselves that a goal kick uses up 40 seconds (on a rare occasion it might, but usually it takes about 20 seconds, sometimes less). Now all they thought they had to do was delay the game another 20 seconds. When they asked me I told them this was a wrong approach. It was something like listening to a jazz group improvise on a tune and, when it came to a natural pause in the music, to stop it for a minute and then ask it to pick up again where it had left off. It was murder, man!
But  CBS strapped an instrument to the referee to signal him that the next injury or goal kick would be convenient for a commercial. The device did not work too well. Perhaps the referee was not picking up the signal in the heat of the game, or maybe it was contrary to his instincts to stop play when all his life he had been keeping it moving.
The system turned sour publicly in  Toronto. Peter Rhodes, an English referee, wanted to show  CBS officials that he could make it work. Early in the match the leftwinger of the  Toronto team tripped and fell. Rhodes whistled a "foul" and waved his arm to show the  CBSproducer that he intended a delay for a commercial. But the winger had not been hurt as badly as Rhodes had anticipated, and started to get to his feet. Rhodes pushed him back to the ground, and the Toronto crowd was immediately aware of skulduggery.
Rather than help  CBS, which was his intention, Rhodes had embarrassed the network. There was talk of Congress investigating, and that is when a red handkerchief made its first appearance on a soccer field. The National Professional Soccer League said it did not want to deceive the public, so the referee was to wave a red handkerchief to show that he was delaying the game for a commercial. Rather than insist that  CBS stop the delays, the league would take the money from  CBS and, at the same time, wave a red flag to suggest it had not quite surrendered to the deceit.
By now I could see that the  U.S. did not need professional soccer. It has its own popular sports, like baseball, basketball and American football. Yet soccer has something to offer, if  America would take an interest in it. Basketball and football demand giants. You don't have to be a big man to be good at soccer. If you're good enough, you're big enough. Soccer could give the  U.S. world competition in a major team sport. The World Cup is the greatest of sporting tournaments. It is professional, unashamedly so. It happens every four years, like the Olympics. But at the Olympics the gold is scattered and somehow the feelings of victory are diluted. The World Cup has only one winner and it is a team triumph. It builds up to a singular conclusion and a grand climax.
Green Bay fans know the joys of being called world champions of American football. But who really plays that game outside  America? Think of the national pride across the land if a  U.S. team—a boy from  California, one from  St. Louis and  Dallas and  New York and so on—won the World Cup in a truly worldwide competition.
What the  U.S. could do for soccer is just as exciting—a big country with big horizons, big challenges, big ideas, many peoples and climates and conditions, a great competitive urge and great wealth. Mix all that into soccer and the possibilities are limitless.
But first the public has to be interested and educated, and that is what I was trying to do on the air. It was not a calculated act on my part, more an instinctive reaction to the circumstances. It was not easy to define. It had to be done on the move, hit-and-run, because soccer offers a commentator little time for real explanation. The  U.S.teams were overnight productions, a human product, a sell-out-and-come-right-away product. There were many faces from many lands. It was all for one and one for all, or nearly so. I had much compassion for their circumstances—playing in hot weather on bad soccer surfaces in front of small crowds.
Nor was I comparing their efforts with other, better standards that I know. There would have been no point in that. I called it as I saw it, gave them credit by their own standards, and when they made a bad pass or move I said so. It must have sounded critical to American sponsors and owners who had seldom heard a bad shot called a bad shot before, but it had to be honest. How else would the American public understand and appreciate soccer if it was not told what was good and what was bad?



One problem was that few of the team owners had any real love for soccer. Some owned stadiums, and soccer was just another circus to fill up empty seats. Some had been inspired by talk of soccer abroad and the World Cup. All of them envied the prestige and profits of the American football teams, particularly since TV enabled pro football to become such a big success. Soccer gave them a sniff of buried treasure and they were after it, with a hint of desperation in their mood because the portents were discouraging. I doubt if they had considered that it took American football many decades to become a financial bonanza, or how much grief and love was put into it by the early pioneers or that millions of boys had been grounded in its fundamentals at high schools and colleges. The owners, like the masses, knew little about soccer, but they had vested reasons to be wary of anything that sounded critical of it. They were in no mood to appreciate my intentions.
Nor was  CBS. Sports TV does not have the same critical faculty as sports journalism. The TV companies are co-promoters. They have to sell their product to the sponsors and to the viewers. I have been told by producers on both sides of the Atlantic not to say that a game was bad when it had been obvious to everyone that it was bad (I always tried to explain why, believing the reasons were more interesting than lies about it). But the TV producer fears an announcer with a mind of his own. He prefers a mechanical idiot who will get him in and out on cue, a sweet-talking tape recorder with the tones of an old fairgrounds barker: "Come along folks.... See the greatest show on earth." They will buy the announcer's soul and preach to him of two truths, and if he can eliminate the negative in his voice he will be a joy in producer-land forever—or until some political storm comes along and demands a new recorder.
The public takes this because it loves its sport, no matter what. But given the choice, I doubt that this kind of thing is what it really wants. Some of the letters in that  CBS audience-response survey that I mentioned earlier were revealing enough. "It is refreshing to hear a sports announcer give his own personal and forthright opinions on individual plays and players instead of trying to make a show of impartiality," wrote one viewer. "It was thoroughly refreshing to hear his comments on what were apparently his true feelings without all the ridiculous self-censorship usually employed by announcers," wrote another. These remarks show that the public knows most sports television has a deliberate phoniness about it.
In time television's attitude can do sport great harm. It can undermine its values and lead to the worship of false idols. As the newspapers once carried news of the sporting dream across the land, TV now carries the vision of it to every small boy, young and old. A young player can see a colorful, moving image of his sporting idol. He has a clear picture of what style to mimic. All the coaching in the world could not replace that advantage. But the boy must be informed of the difference between aimless movement and good action. The picture should be given an honest definition by the commentary. Sport is a wonderfully democratic thing, one of the few honorable battlefields left. It is a conflict between good and bad, winning and losing, praise and criticism. Its true values should be cherished and protected. They do not belong to owners of athletics franchises or to TV companies. They belong to the people. Any small boy, anywhere, who kicks a ball owns a piece of the action. Everybody enjoys exaggeration and romance in a sporting story, but deliberate lying and cheating for profit is something else.
I hope nobody will misunderstand my comments concerning the personalities in the  CBS sports department. They were far ahead of any TV company I've worked for before. What control any of them had over policy or to what extent they were slaves to the system, I don't really know. I do not go along with the saying, "If you are not for us you are against us." Many people I am for do some things I am against. The only reason I have referred to them, or written this story, is to point out a dubious quality in the marriage between TV and sport.
TV is an intruder at a sports event and should always be kept in its place. It should not be allowed to change important details of the event to suit its own ends. It should stand back at times and be critical about what is going on. But because it is a very presumptuous being, television thinks the world belongs to it.
TV can help sports crowds grow—build interest—though there were big sporting crowds long before TV. Television can also do much harm. It brings quick money into sport and thus can bring a worthy prosperity to the owners, the players and the game. But, unless handled properly, this money can also destroy the values of a sport, its very roots. The hero should get his rewards, like  Arnold Palmer. That adds to the romance of a sport. But what about the million-dollar bonus babies who get the rewards before doing any real battle and steal away with it all, and not a noble blow struck by them?
How quickly can a sport devalue itself? The  National Football Leaguedivided its 16 teams into four divisions last year. Perhaps that was a smart move for geographic and other reasons. But it had a touch of the old sales talk to me. Four champions, all winners, make more hay. It devalues the meaning of the word "champion."
Perhaps it is time for a full investigation of the whole area of sport and television. Both sport and television are reaping big financial harvests now, but unless some care is taken these harvests could become the grapes of wrath for the future of sport. Those are some of the feelings I inherited after a season as an American TV commentator.

Wednesday, 25 April 2018

Thanatophobia

Avengers : Infinity War is a Film about
DEPRESSION

Still a cheesy Darkseid knock-off.

"I bring Sutekh's Gift of Death
to all Humanity..!"

Evil? Your evil is my good. 

I am Sutekh, the Destroyer. 

Where I tread I leave nothing but Dust and Darkness. 

I find that good

- The Typhonian Beast

Teeth+Curls: 
Then I curse you, Sutekh, 
In the Name of All Nature. 
You are a twisted abhorrence. Argh


You can't always get what you want.
No, you can't all ways get what you want.
O, you can't - Always Get What You Want.

But if You Try (sometimes)
You Just Might Find

You Get What You Need

"The Revolution is successful.
 But survival depends on drastic measures. 

Your continued existence represents a threat to the well-being of society. 
Your lives mean slow death to the more valued members of the colony. 

Therefore, I have no alternative but to sentence you to Death. 

Your execution is so ordered, 

signed 
Kodos
Governor of Tarsus IV.
2246


"There was no other way."

- Says the man who just looked ahead into 14,000,406 Potential Futures


No one asks for their life to change, not really. 

But it does.

So what are we, helpless? Puppets? 

No. The big moments are 
gonna come. 
You can't help that. 

It's what you do afterwards that counts. 

That's when you find out who you are.



You'll see what I mean.




[Enterprise-A bridge]

Gen. CHANG
Have you not a shred of decency ...in you, Kirk? 
We come in peace - and you blatantly defile that peace. 

And for that - I shall blow you out of the stars.

Capt. KIRK: 
We haven't fired.

Capt. SPOCK: 
Captain - according to our data banks, we have
...Twice.

Lt. VALERIS: 
Captain, they're coming about!

Capt. SPOCK: 
They're preparing to fire.

Cmdr. CHEKOV: 
Shields up, Captain?

Lt. VALERIS: 
Captain, our shields!

Cmdr. CHEKOV: 
Shields up, Captain?

Captain James T. 
KIRK:
(It means "Church")
Signal Our Surrender.

UHURA: 
Captain?!

Captain KIRK: 
We surrender!

*****



Capt. "Rabbit" :

Okay... Time to be The Captain...

*****
The Ancient One :
You Cannot Beat a River into Submission - 
You Must Surrender to It's Currents
and Use It's Power as Your Own

I..? I... 
Control It by Surrendering Control..?
That Doesn't Make Sense..!


Not Everything Does - Not Everything Has to

Your Intellect has Taken You Far in Life -
But it Will Take You No Further :

Surrender, Stephen.

Silence Your Ego
and 
Your Power Will Rise
I've spent so many years, peering through 'Time',
looking at This exact Moment - but I can't see past it.

I've prevented countless, terrible futures - and after each one, there's always another.

And they all  lead here - but never further.

You think this is where you die..?

You wonder what I see in your  future..?

No...
...yes.


I never saw Your Future - only it's possibilities.

You've such a Capacity for Goodness -
You always excelled - 
But not because you craved Success
But Because of your Fear of Failure

It's what made me a great Doctor.

It's precisely what kept you from Greatness

Arrogance and Fear still keep you from learning 
The Simplest 
and 
Most Significant Lesson of All :

Which is...?

IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU


Mastery of the Sling-Ring is Essential to The Mystick Artes - they allow us to travel throughout The Multiverse.


All You Need to Do is Focus - Visualise.

See The Destination in Your Mind.
Look Beyond The World in Front of You.
Imagine Every Detail.

The Clearer the Picture, the Quicker+Easier 
The Gateway Will Come.



Buffy: 
Don't worry about me. 

Whistler: 
It's all on the line here, kid. 

Buffy: 
I can deal.
 (sadly) 
I got nothing left to lose. 
(leaves

Whistler: 
Wrong, kid. 

You got one more thing






“It was a Fool’s Leap, a Shot in The Dark. 
But anything of any value in our lives, whether that be a career, a work of art, a relationship, will always start with such a leap. 

And in order to be able to make it, you have to put aside the FEAR of FAILING and the DESIRE of SUCCEEDING

You have to do these things completely purely without fear, without desire
Because things that we do without lust or result, are the purest actions that we shall ever take.

Alan Moore
Wizard


Thanatophobia: The One Fear Everyone Has
March 1, 2017 /// ELSIE DIVINAGRACIA, MPH

Thanatophobia – the fear of death – is something every human has to face

What is Thanatophobia?
There is really only one certain thing about life, and that is that it ends. However, constantly keeping this thought in mind can stop you from actually living life! The extreme and often irrational thought or fear of death is known as thanatophobia. The word thanatophobia is derived from the Greek god of death, who was called Thanatos. It is also commonly referred to as “death anxiety.” For anyone who has seen the Final Destination film series, this concept is already familiar. In the first one, the main character shut himself up in a remote cabin, completely isolated, bundled up and fearing for his life.

Causes of phobias

Though that is an intense dramatization, for many people the fear of death does carry similar consequences. A sufferer of thanatophobia can refuse to leave his/her house, drive, fly, or any number of other daily activities that could be seen as (irrationally) dangerous or potentially life-threatening. Even though thanatophobia is not on its own a distinct clinical disorder, this phobia can occur simultaneously with other phobias or psychological or behavioral issues. If left untreated, the phobia may get much worse, so it is important to seek professional help.

Freud was the first to theorize about thanatophobia and said that death anxiety was the representation of unresolved conflicts from childhood, and humans are unable to accept their own mortality. Another theory that has been widely researched is the Terror Management Theory, which states that people have the essential will to live life fully, but are constantly aware that death is inevitable. People then try to manage this conflict by seeking meaning in their life, with personal goals and fulfillment. However, a person with a lower tolerance, lower self-esteem, and lessened management of this internal conflict will experience greater anxiety about death.

Author Stanley Hall established that children are born with no fear of death, just like animals, but with child development, the consciousness of dying becomes more and more viable.

Causes of Thanatophobia
Many people are afraid of dying, because of the unknown question that every human is faced with: what happens after you die, and what is dying actually like? We may never be able to know the answer until we actually die, and these thoughts can lead to severe anxiety symptoms at just the mere thought of death. But like all phobias, there are a number of contributors to the development of thanatophobia:

A traumatic experience – A near death experience can bring the fear of death to the forefront of your mind. This could be a severe accident, a serious illness, a violent attack, or even a natural disaster. The loss of a loved one could also trigger the symptoms of thanatophobia, or if someone close to them has a near death experience.

Constantly being surrounded by death – Similarly, emergency room nurses and doctors who are often surrounded by death and dying are constantly reminded of their own mortality and are at risk of developing death anxiety.

Religion – Religion tries to give a reason and explanation of death. Most religions believe that salvation in the afterlife only comes from following strict rules and any deviations will lead to condemnation. However, when someone is questioning their faith, their confusion can intensify the fear of being wrong about the afterlife.

Fear of the unknown – Similarly, a deep fear and confusion of not knowing what happens after death will contribute to thanatophobia. This fear of death mostly affects those who are highly intelligent or questioning their beliefs, philosophical or theological.

Fear of loss of control – Everyone wants to feel like they are in control of their own destiny. However, as of now, there is no possible way that you can completely prevent death. The thought of not being in control is enough for some people to onset the symptoms of thanatophobia.

Fear of ghosts – For those whose thanatophobia is rooted in religious beliefs, the fear of being stuck on earth as a ghost can be terrifying, and control your life and actions if you try to prevent that outcome by any means possible.

Other related fears – People that fear death often also extend that fear to anything that can remind them of death. This could include funeral homes, burials, tombstones, ghosts, skeletons or skulls, or any other symbol of death.

Just the sight of tombstones can trigger anxiety symptoms.
Just the sight of tombstones can trigger anxiety symptoms.
Symptoms of Thanatophobia
Symptoms of thanatophobia can be brought on by just the thought of death, and are comparable to symptoms of extreme anxiety. This can include physical symptoms like dizziness, nausea, sweating, palpitations, chest pain, or stomach pain. There can also be mental symptoms, which can be constant thoughts of death or dying, uncontrollable reactions, repetition of gory or distressing thoughts about dying loss of control, or even delusions, and the inability to tell reality from fantasy. Emotional symptoms involve the sufferer constantly worrying about the prospect of death, a strong desire to flee the situation that reminded them of death, anger, guilt, and extreme avoidance of anything that reminds them of death or dying. All of these symptoms are similar to anxiety symptoms. 

Check Living with Generalized Anxiety Disorder



Treating Thanatophobia
Since there are so many causes and possible complications of thanatophobia, it is important to consult a mental health professional. Depression, bipolar disorder, or ADHD can often be mistaken for, or be happening concurrently. Other conditions that could be related to thanatophobia include Alzheimer’s disease, schizophrenia, psychotic episode, epilepsy, or strokes. Since thanatophobia is not on its own a clinical diagnosis, the sufferer will need to discuss with their mental health practitioner if their symptoms are interfering with their daily life. Your doctor will be able to discuss any possible related symptoms and disorders to prescribe the best possible course of treatment.



Like other phobias, the most widely used and effective treatment for Thanatophobia is cognitive behavioral therapy. CBT is aimed at understanding the underlying thoughts that are the basis of the person’s fear of death and changing those thoughts to be more realistic and positive so that the person is able to function in their everyday life without the constant fear of death. Religious counseling could also be helpful if the fear is rooted in their religious beliefs. Relaxation techniques can be useful to employ during a phobic episode, which could look like a panic attack. Medications such as antidepressants or anti-anxiety medications may also be prescribed, especially if the phobia is occurring with those emotional disorders. With thanatophobia, peer groups can be particularly helpful, where you can discuss feelings about death, and coping processes that have helped others.

The main point is not to lose hope and seek treatment if you think you are suffering from thanatophobia. The fear of death or dying can be a persistent struggle, and can constantly be in the back of your mind, but there is always help available from mental health professionals, and peers.

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